How Do You Handle The Negative?

We all know people that are always negative. Those that kill your mood with negative and pessimism.

I turn on the Internet and TV and all I hear is negative news, complaining and conflict! I decide to Turn on music instead. I log onto my social media and all I see are negative post and stories. I will hide these people from my view. But then I think being positive is not ignoring the negative, but instead, overcoming it. But how?

What about family members or friends that can never find anything positive to say? The ones you love and want to see do better, but unwilling to better themselves and continue complaining about it. No matter what you say, they come back with a negative remark. They will always find bad in everything good. They hate life and dwell on bad news.

I know a person that will complain about their weight but instead of listening to my advice, they return a photo of themselves eating a dozen donuts or a pint of ice cream and think its funny. people will do this to discourage you from reaching your own goals by trying to prove it's not possible.

What about that person that hates the way they look? No matter how you convenience them they are beautiful, they get mad at you and call you a lair. They simply will not accept a compliment. So you snap back and tell them before anyone else can like them, they have to like themselves. This is true fact by the way. I get tired of wasting my time trying to change someone that is not willing to change themselves.

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I am proud of myself for losing 50 lbs. But it does not always come with sparkles and rainbows. I more often walk into a room and hear people say, "you make me sick" or "it must be nice to be able to lose weight", than hear anyone congratulate me. I have to remember to smile and hold my chin up. It took a lot of work to get where I am. I refuse to let them bring me down to their level of unhappiness.

Negative people will suck the optimism right out of you. They wonder why they do not have friends and its because the heave a reputation of always being negative. No one wants to be around that.

I have decided to limit my exposure to these kind of people.

How do you handle negative news or negative people?



15 comments

  1. Why oh why can’t people just be happy for each other and lift others up. This world is a mess I Tell ya and the best thing you can do is forge ahead and try your hardest not to be around those negative people. But I know sometimes that’s impossible. Just keep being your beautiful self inside and out and pray that someday these negative Nelly’s will see the positive light!

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  2. I only have time for positive people! I have given myself a pass on wasting any time at all on the negative Nellie's or the "mean people"! I do not have time for that!!!! I work way to hard on begin positive to get sucked dry by a negative person! Congrats on the weight loss!!!! That is awesome!

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  3. I think I'm just blessed with having a positive happy attitude. I don't let other people get me down. Besides I know Jesus loves me and when it comes right down to it, that is what matters. :)
    I get that weight thing all the time!!! People are always telling me how lucky I am because I'm thin. Not thinking about all the walking I do or not eating EVERYTHING I want to.
    A happy day to you my friend. :)

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  4. I will admit to a little temper ... all I'm gonna say about that

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  5. It's not easy to be around people who are constantly negative. I often have to curtail the comments in a gentle but firm way, or if that doesn't work I'll do like you and limit my contact with that person. You look great and you worked hard to get there. Don't let anyone rain on your parade!

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  6. I think you're wise to limit the time and effort you spend with someone of that description. What I try to remember is, in order for them to be that way constantly, they must feel pretty awful inside, and that's a burden I am grateful I don't bear. For some it's not as easy as others to put the negative outlook aside. You did a fantastic thing for your mind and your body by losing all that weight. There is an element you have, and you used it successfully, that those who are jealous of your success don't have, or haven't found the way out of the woods yet - as you said, it's really hard. Congrats on your success!

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  7. I'm so glad you did this post, Lisa, cause it's a very good topic, and there are many negative people out there. I just try to be good to everyone, and I know that isn't easy, especially when others try to bring you down, but you will have peace knowing you are trying to spread joy, even if it doesn't feel like they appreciate anything you do. I didn't know you lost 50 lbs. That's not an easy thing to do. I hope you always have peace cause it's so important, and you can find it in nature, at church, maybe doing something special just for yourself. Thank you for doing this post, it is much needed in our world right now.

    ~Sheri

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  8. I try to limit my time around negative people because I AM POSITIVE. I know where you are coming from. I hear, "I wish I could eat anything I want like you and stay fit." Sherry is the same. Yep we all should know how to keep our cool, but at times it is tough. You should be proud. The feat is amazing. As you say, "Smile." Avoid when possible.
    Anyway U B COOL! There are more proud of you than envious.

    Love from Florida
    Sherry & jack

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  9. I just avoid negative people. Life is too short and too beautiful to be dragged down to their level. You can't change anyone. It is their journey and their choice on how to walk through it. And you should take pride in your accomplishments. It takes hard work and dedication!

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  10. I'm back. Sherry and I have been discussing this a little. Most of the people who make the comments don't mean to be 'mean' but admire you for what you have done. but do not know how to express it. Give them a little slack, but if it is constantly negative avoid them when you can. Advice from someone 'who ain't an advisor'. I am poor at handling the situations like that.
    But me 'n Nick sure do admire you! ;-)

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    1. Thank you Jack. Its mostly those who are always complaining around me about themselves. Always unhappy and there is nothing I can say or do that helps them. They refuse to help themselves and make it misurable for everyone around them. Also im around people all day that that can never find good in anything. Always find the bad in everything. Im at wits end sometimes.

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  11. Oy. Do I know those kind of people!! I also hide the constant dark post and offensive people on Facebook. It amazes me how mean people can get if you don't agree with every opinion.

    As for the weight loss, I'll offer my congratulations!! It's not easy.

    One time, I was watching TV with my niece and I whined that I wished I had a body like whoever was on the TV at the time. My niece gave me an instant reality check when she said, "Why? You'd trash that body in a year." Hilarious. And so on point. That actress didn't get the perfect body by luck. And I didn't get my chubby body because I have bad genes or a poor metabolism. I like donuts.

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    1. You just made me laugh. I love donuts too.

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  12. Negative news always hits us harder than positive news. Finding $20 is less memorable than losing it.

    But then there's just toxic people who suck the fun out of everything.

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  13. Like you, dear one, I just avoid those toxic people like the plague...and I have unfollowed so so many on FB....I just refuse to listen to it or read it....

    I am so proud of you for your sweetness...your loyalty...your love of family (and the beach) and your stick-with-it losing 50 lbs....if I am proud...I can't imagine how proud your handsome dude of a husband and your movie star looking little girl are of you..and all your other family. love to you...

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