When It Rains, It Pours

My daughter was home Tuesday for an overnight stay. Nick ended up busting her bubble the next day by telling her he’d rather her not go with us on our week vacation this year. *sigh*. I’m not sure whose feelings were hurt worst, hers or mine. But in all fairness, me and Nick have never got to take a whole week vacation without our daughter in 26 years. She had already taken that week off and was exited about going. When he blurted out during a converstion “No your not going this time, me and your mom need a week at the beach alone for once”. It hit her wrong.
The wording could have been better and softer but this hurt her feelings and she packed her overnight bag and left mad. I’m sure she didn’t want to talk to us ever again, but we knew this too would pass. 

When she got to her apartment, she had to call us (which I knew just killed her due to the curcumstances).
“Mom, my apartment sprinkler system is going off flooding our apartment and I do not know what to do.”
Of course she could have come back here, but we are 45 minutes away from her work place, so she decided to stay at a friends house for the night.

She and her roomate spent all of Thursday on the phone with the apartment manager on what to do. Let me just mention, “These are are uptown apartments with rent that could pay my car off’. They wanted answers! Restoration crews were coming into the apartments on that floor and setting up equipment and turning off overhead lights. Twelve units were flooded. They were fit to be tied. She had to stay with a friend again that night.


On Friday, she and her roomate marched down to the office and demanded some answers and instructions. The apartment manager told them that they had to use their renters insurance to find a hotel for a few weeks. What? This can not work because she relies on the light rail train to take her to work each morning as parking uptown can cost 50.00 a day. The insurance requires a 500.00 deductable she did not have, its not their fault, and she could not be that far away from her shoes! Ha.

This momma was just about to call the apartments myself but Nick suggested I let them handle it as they are adults. 
After a heated argument they were given a new apartment to move into without any fees and also some of the rent price knocked off for the month. The kicker was they had to be out of the flooded apartment by Sunday. Nothing was packed or boxed and the restoration equipment was scattered through out. It was a nightmare.


So 11:00 at night we took a trip to Charlotte to at least get her bed moved to the new apartment. While Nick disassembled the bed frame, Me and my daughter wrestled a large matteress to the 4th floor and other side of the building. This took us almost an hour. I think I laughted so hard, my tummy has a six pack. She on the other hand was ill as a bat. To me, us wrestleing that wobbly mattress, stopping every few feet was hilarious. But we mananged to get her whole bedroom moved that night and her roomate moved her things on Saturday. 


We are heading back down there today and finish up get the moving process completed, mirrors and pictures hung and dishes put away.  
I look at this as precious moments, memories and adventures to keep forever.


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  1. Lisa, I am so sorry for your daughter...even though she is an adult, there are times our grown children need us. I wish your husband could have talked the trip over before she took her days off. Bummer. The apartment place will have to make up to her all her losses and inconvenience. Blessings and hugs to your daughter and your mommy's heart. xoxo, Susie

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    1. Its not until Aug and and she can get any week she needs off. We get only one week off. She still goes with is on weekend trips.
      Thanks for the hugs and blessings xoxo

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  2. Ah yes, our children are always our children. I was mama's baby until she died. We do what we can.Of course things could have been said/presented better but here I am with Nick. You guys need a week on VACATION alone. YOu need to play kids again, but that is just a husband's opinion! LOL

    Hope all works out. The apartment flooding is a bummer. An attitude 'like use your renter's ins' is also a bummer. Yep I would have wanted to call the manager myself too, but it is good they handled it themselves, did the grown up thing.
    And yes, the rental now up town scares me to pieces!!!!

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    1. They did a good job. And we finally got her settled.

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  3. No way should they have had to use their renter's insurance--their building should have taken care of it!!

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  4. WHAT a weekend. For you all. And how I love hearing that even hurt and upset she turned to you.

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    1. Yea we rarely argue and believe me, shes spoiled rotten.

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  5. What a nightmare but looks as if things are turning out alright.

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    1. I think we have it all back together now. They just need to do some cleaning.

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  6. Sorry about the hurt feelings.....but your husband has a point. Been there and done that myself and I still struggle. Children leave. Parents stay. We have to make hard decisions sometimes and I pray all will smooth out for y’all soon.....

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  7. Oh, yes, we go thru so many ""memories" raising our children...some good...some not so good.
    Dad's can say things like that much better than moms...even if we are thinking the same thing, mamas just can't do it.....she'll get over it....

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  8. I know for a lot of kids that move away from home, coming to us for help is the first and most important thing they do. I would take that as a compliment on your good parenting, you did good and she trusts you.

    I really wish your husband had been a little more tactful in telling her she was not going on vacation with you. She sounds like she was very, very hurt. The older they are, the less they 'get over it'. Perhaps you could compromise by the three of you doing a weekend getaway.

    Jane

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    1. She goes with us on some of our weekend beach trips. We love her going with us but we aint getting any younger and I need to learn to let go too.

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  9. Bless her heart..and y’alls. I know she’ll get over hurt feelings.

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  10. Glad your daughters apt. ordeal is getting taken care of. she'll get over her hurt feelings about the vacation i'm sure.

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